Who you’re seeing in the mirror every day may not actually be the person you’re looking at.
But it can be; if you’re living for yourself, and not for other people.
We don’t get a whole lot of choices in life. We can choose where we go to school, where we work, and what type of apartment we live in. In college, they tell you the opportunities are endless, and they’re right. But what they don’t tell you is that your decisions ultimately become a giant domino effect. You’ll make one choice after another, and it’ll seem like this happened because of that, or that you have to do this because of that other thing.
It’s a sad concept really, to think that we can become trapped by our choices.
We do have some say in what happens to us though, even if in the smallest way. We can choose how we overcome our past decisions. We can choose whether we consider our choices to become our pain or our progress. We can choose our outlook on life, and we can choose how we spend our future days.
We can choose who is still in or out of our lives, and where it is we’re headed.
So you made some poor decisions along the way. Don’t think that means you have to keep making them, or feeling guilty because of them. The sooner you accept what happened and move on, the easier it’ll be to gain some composure and move on. Thinking about what other people are going to perceive you as? Stop that. It only matters what you think of yourself, and anyone else’s opinion should be thrown away if you know better.
Don’t decide things have to be a certain way because you’re not worth any better, or because you have to save face. You’ll never be able to break down the chain if you don’t try.
You do not, I repeat, do not have to be defined by your past decisions.
What makes life interesting is that we never know what’s going to happen. One day we’re going to class or getting our first job, the next we’re having a family or being promoted or getting ready to travel the world. I never would’ve though a year ago that I would prepping to leave for Africa, or that my best friend would be living in Tampa with me, or that I would be working a day job and writing in my free time. The reason all of that happened though is because I opened myself up to the opportunity, and if I had stuck around the things or the people that I decided no longer suited me, I never would’ve been able to achieve growth.
Maybe you’re scared of the opposition. Sometimes you have to have it though. The thing is, if we can make our choices in life, face the opposition and judgment, and still be proud of ourselves at the end of the day, then we know we made the right choice. For ourselves.
You’re not making choices for other people. For appearances. For things that no longer benefit you or help you grow. You’re making choices for yourself, and you have to live with them.
Remember that.
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